"Whenever I've been put in a problem solving context,
I've found that always being questioned by my peers
helped me to speak up myself, and ask more questions,
and question myself and others in a manner
that is much more productive than if I had come into situations acting as though I already had the solution."
The 10 Things
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. . . .There are ten things I've learnt at Bard, which I'm sure I would never have picked up elsewhere:
During the Class of 2006's graduation dinner, the college's president Leon Botstein (Ed. Note: check out video we added below), fondly referred to by us students as Leon, gave one of his regularly eloquent speeches. He said that it's the worst disservice we can do to our minds, and ourselves, to shy away from speaking up in the face of injustice, and equally terrible to hide in private.
"You belong to the world," Leon said. "Don't be afraid to be a part of it."
Whenever I've lost focus and wanted to shrink, I remember the meaning behind these words: embrace your fears and work on remaining a public personality.
2. People are always happy to help a stranger in need.
When hunting for a job in NYC after graduating, I often cursed Bard for not having an adequate career development office (I was asked to google jobs I wanted to apply for!), or a suitable network. I was wrong.
Bardians helped me meet some folks who have changed the entire fabric of everything I have gone on to accomplish in human rights and in the arts.
The trick was to begin to listen, to go to alumni events, to call up different alumni and ask for tea or coffee or even five minutes of their busy schedules (the short end of networking is that people love talking about themselves, and if you get them started, chances are you're not going to have to pay for that coffee).
and in fact, constantly and consistently encourages and celebrates those who seek entrepreneurship and difference . . ."
Obviously, going to NYC may have helped too. Many people in the publishing and arts world know Bard in New York, and they respect the vision fostered by the school's ventures into adolescent education, and providing a space for the two nation theory through the establishment of the ONLY American university to have a presence in Gaza.
Bardians always helped me out when I got myself into a pickle (if you know anything about midget me, it's that I always manage to find myself in the most ludicrous situations), and they introduced me to others who were experts in whatever I was seeking, even when they themselves did not hold answers.
3. It's okay not to know what you want to do in life, as long as you stay productive.
I've often switched careers - from the arts world to human rights to international relations.
From law to writing and development to events management, Bard has taught me that with the right mindset, flexibility is possible, and versatility allows you to remain calm under pressure, whilst staying focused on getting what needs to be done, and honing in on your managing and directorial skills in the process.
I worked my way through college, but in between writing papers whilst folks lifted weights in the gym and I monitored them and planning weekend parties for the student body, I came to gather skills that later on became the essential selling points in scoring jobs.
Even in the few months of unemployment straight after college when I received 16 job offers at publishing houses and law firms, only to have the majority of them rescinded because employers were unkeen to take on the exorbitant prices of keeping me in as a "skilled" native English speaker when others were available at a less cost consuming price, I stayed proactive.
Whether it was in increasing my cultural acumen through museum visits, or taking photographs, or volunteering for the River to River Festival in Manhattan, or working on the quarterly special issues of US News and World Report, I partook in educating myself constantly through activities which later helped me score my first "real" job at the Asia Society and stay on in New York for five and a half exceptional years.
4. Don't be afraid to edit.
A man who had attended Harvard about the time I was born, Ben LaFarge is one of Bard's most incredible Literature professors, and Iím honored to have worked very closely with him.
At once engaging and nonchalant, LaFarge is quite the force to contend with, and heís told more than two generations of us lost wanderlust-ridden ìwritersî to take control of our fates and futures, in his beautifully typewritten letters.
On my first proper meeting with Ben over my thesis, he circled ONE sentence out of the thirty pages I turned in, and said, "I think you've got a great start here; scrap the rest."
And I'm eternally grateful I did so.
Being able to edit without holding onto each word you've written as though they're so glorious that they showcase the epitome of perfection is akin to growing up.
When the time to edit my Anthropology thesis came around, I was able to scrap 70 pages of work done over the course of a semester into a single footnote, having realized that my work lacked the direction I wanted to push it into.
Doing thus helped sharpen my articulations, and also made me realize that there is a space and time for certain words, and letting go is what controls these variables.
5. Walk away from mediocrity, and shy away from "mainstream".
Before Bard, if you asked me to tell you my name, I would have turned the deepest shade of crimson that my brown skin would have allowed me to take on.
Additionally, I would have possibly allowed you to trample all over me regarding my taste in music or books or anything.
In short, I was a jittery adolescent, and afraid that because I wasn't always in fashion,
that I had no style.
Going into student politics helped me cut down on my public speaking fears, and gave me the confidence to walk away from situations that are built on nostalgia, whilst learning to juggle several commitments and foster a sense of ownership over the projects I took on, which included helping to fundraise for victims of the Shri Lankan tsunami.
These activities also allowed me to say no to being a shopgirl in Grand Central station, say for instance, even though for a fraction of a momentary hiccup, I did not have the funds to buy a bottle of milk within the first eight weeks of graduating. I stuck it out until I found a suitable job, because I knew I deserved more, deserved better, than becoming a face in the New York crowd.
6. There is great power in sitting out under the stars and just
Being stuck in the middle of nowhere with a school motto that states simply that Bard's
"A Place to Think" can be flustering when it gets in the way of letting out your stress.
We all need breaks, but given that I was working all the time, I often found that sitting out at the bleachers behind the soccer field at night, at a time when no one else was there, or out in Blithewood's gorgeous gardens, provided an unparalleled space to just relax, look up, and wonder about my own significance in the cosmos.
It was precisely being surrounded by the Catskills and being in the middle of the Hudson Valley that has always helped me seek out greenery, and find those calming locations in the world which are only possible upon stepping away into the wilderness and staring into the night sky.
7. The questions are more important than the answers.
One of the first things that my favourite Anthropology professor told our Language and Mass Media class was that you can't just say something is problematic. Doing so is passing a judgment which, if unsupported, is a dangerous premise into a narrow-minded stereotyping outlook and worldview that is not conducive to knowledge, and is in fact, completely alien to knowledge itself.
This little tidbit of information stuck with me. Whenever I've been put in a problem solving context, I've found that always being questioned by my peers helped me to speak up myself, and ask more questions, and question myself and others in a manner that is much more productive than if I had come into situations acting as though I already had the solution.
Which brings me to the next observation:
8. Always surround yourself with people who are smarter than you.
I'm serious about this. I'll be the first to admit that I'm kind of average, but I've been lucky enough to have known great minds.
People who are intelligent tend to have intelligent conversations.
When you find that you're surrounded by folks who are out to scapegoat you for their personal interests, as is wont to happen frequently in the "real' world of social climbers and sugarcoated hypocrites, it's important to remain grounded by seeking out those who know more than you, whether it is academically or through their professional experience, or even through the world experience of traveling.
You won't be disappointed.
Bigger questions are posed by those who think carefully about their surroundings, and I often found this as I made my way into different conversations over my Bard years: everyone's got something to teach you, and they usually are smarter than you are, in one way or another.
9. Don't be afraid to do it on your own.
As opposed to my high school click-centric experience, I found several Bardians frequently eating alone at Kline, our dining hall.
They never seemed to be bothered by their solitude. As someone who comes from a large family and went to boarding school, this was naturally different to my familial and familiar surroundings, but over the course of my four years of college, I began to embrace and indeed, savor those moments of being alone.
As soon as I did, the world opened up for me, because I was also able to take time off on soul searching missions across foreign terrain by myself.
Don't get me wrong, I love my friends and I love traveling with others as much as I do by myself, but I'm so incredibly glad that there were others who were like me- not waiting for someone else to act but by doing, proving that it's okay to have some alone time for yourself.
10. If you read, you can achieve almost anything.
Really. I can't emphasize this more if I had it blinking in tacky red flashing colors for you on your computer screen.
You are a smart and intelligent human being. We all are, and we may have not all been brought up in environments where we felt unique, but keeping my mind open to a flow of new ideas, or improved concepts, means that I'm constantly educating myself and constantly remaining abreast of the challenges that will indubitably cross my path.
Furthermore, I realized I already have the skill sets necessary to combat whatever falls into my line of vision.
I used to wonder about the 800+ pages of reading per week during senior year, but in retrospect, the sheer pain of having to endure such lengthy pieces of writing helped me remain focused on gleaning the important ideas, summarizing, rehashing, and in short, articulating and formulating ideologies that were constantly shifting to make space for new knowledge.
It's been seven years since college, but there's not one day which goes by when I'm not thankful for Bard. It's made me everything I am today, and then more.
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